Boy, I sure am cryin a lot!

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I didn't really notice it sooner because I'm perimenopausal and on a three week cycle, which means I'm living a bit....intensely these days, emotionally. But one of my coworkers mentioned casually that it seems like I've been crying a lot (they haven't witnessed it firsthand or anything, but since I'm not a regular weeper, it's something that comes up in "yesterday after I got off work" stories.) I kinda dismissed it and figured it's because I'm waiting to bleed. But I'm cleaning and kid-proofing because my not-daughter is visiting tomorrow with my not-granddaughter, and realized I was absently crying while I unload the dishwasher.

So I thought it over, and yep; I HAVE had a fair spike since mid-march. I'm fairly happy life-wise; and I'm not depressed or hurting or in a bad place; the stuff I'm crying over is like, the full gamut. Dear Evan Hansen. Literally any poem about a spider. My boss presented me with a division award yesterday and didn't use ChatGPT to write his remarks because he knew I'd be hurt by that, so he took the time to say HIMSELF what he meant. A bunch of songs from Hamilton. My dead father. A guy I was in love with in high school, who I am NOT in love with now but I sure was then and now boo-hoo-hoo when "Iris" comes on. Any thinking about my mom kind of growing up with me and how hard she worked to be good. My dearest friend, who's been dead for like three years. World War Z, almost ANY chapter. Television shows. Commercials for pediatric hospitals. Considering whether the unbroken line of my ancestors would be proud or ashamed of who I am. etc. etc. etc. etc, going about my business with a kleenex.

I don't require any advice, if it's perimeno, then it's nothing; if it's reta, it'll likely fade off in time, and I don't live a life where a little bit of crying will disrupt anything. But I thought I saw a couple of people talking about mood swings with reta, and I may be having some. Just thought I'd add my data-point to the pool.
 
I think the reta has been effecting me too. I have been sadder than usual since I been on it. I find myself enjoying things less than I used to. I have ZERO sex drive now, which is not at all like me. It can't be my hormones because I officially became postmenopausal last month.
 
Retatrutide causes anhedonia, and the decrease in sexual desire happens to me even with low-dose TRT treatment; I always have a lot of it, and now it's like I can go without doing it.
 
It sucks the universe (and likely reta!) is making you a random weeper. Boo, hiss. This brings up an interesting thought for me, though. I wonder how any of these GLP-1 APIs would be effecting my mood and emotions if I weren't already taking lexipro for said saddies. I lived my entire life crying at the drop of a hat, just like you are now - even just me retelling a damn sob story I saw online to someone would make me choke up with emotion. Not to mention the embarrassment at work when being frustrated brought out the same waterworks. I finally had enough and 5 years ago told my Dr that I wanted something to help and he said let's try the lexi.

My life was effing changed. Within weeks I was able to watch sad videos and movies and only cry when I was truly impacted, not just by being exposed to them. I can now tell sad tales tall and true, and not pause because I'm getting faklempt. I'm still on the same initial 5mg, but knowing this is how most people lived their lives makes me so annoyed that I had to put up with it for so long.

And dang if it isn't the exact same thing as food noise and the GLP1s! Like, people who don't have the issue have no idea the struggle of those that do, and it's crazy to see it from the other side and feel "normal".

I'm hoping your emotions adjust to the reta soon. If not, well, you do have all that trusty tirz stocked up.
 
Totally get why you're feeling more emotional right now, especially with all the stuff you brought up. None of it's small or unimportant. It’s like your vibes are just a bit more wired than usual, but that doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. Appreciate you sharing that and want you to know that you are not alone.
 
Ruckus4519 said:
I listened to the full cast audiobook twice. What did you think about the chapter about the submarines?

Side note, how do you feel about swans?


More seriously, I hope you feel better soon.
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The pilot and the skywatcher. I've been bawling at that one for twenty years. But I got to the part where the sergent finds the turtle and starts whispering to it and just lost my shit.

Thanks y'all for the kind words. I really am fine and not in like constant pain or anything. It's not even anhedonia, I had that for several months with tirz but not so much on tirz. It didn't feel like this; it just felt like "there is nothing in particular that I care about doing." This is more "I am bopping along thinking about work and my bicycle and then I read a poem about a spider and am on the couch going boo hoo hoo and then I go get on my bicycle." It's what makes me think that if it's not perimeno, it's reta; there's a kind of emotional that feels chemical rather than situational.
 
Hope you start feeling better soon!! Maybe try & watch /read funny happy things for a while? Or try to switch back to the tirz to make sure if it keeps happening? Could really be either. That way you can figure out which it is. Stinks either way. Boo the fun things we have to go through
 
WoW, another new thing I learned about....
It might explain my lack of sexual desire (sometimes).

And not to make light of it; but I lost that pleasure I use to get from my morning coffee.
Haven't had a coffee in over a month.
 
randompersonrandom said:
I didn't really notice it sooner because I'm perimenopausal and on a three week cycle, which means I'm living a bit....intensely these days, emotionally. But one of my coworkers mentioned casually that it seems like I've been crying a lot (they haven't witnessed it firsthand or anything, but since I'm not a regular weeper, it's something that comes up in "yesterday after I got off work" stories.) I kinda dismissed it and figured it's because I'm waiting to bleed. But I'm cleaning and kid-proofing because my not-daughter is visiting tomorrow with my not-granddaughter, and realized I was absently crying while I unload the dishwasher.

So I thought it over, and yep; I HAVE had a fair spike since mid-march. I'm fairly happy life-wise; and I'm not depressed or hurting or in a bad place; the stuff I'm crying over is like, the full gamut. Dear Evan Hansen. Literally any poem about a spider. My boss presented me with a division award yesterday and didn't use ChatGPT to write his remarks because he knew I'd be hurt by that, so he took the time to say HIMSELF what he meant. A bunch of songs from Hamilton. My dead father. A guy I was in love with in high school, who I am NOT in love with now but I sure was then and now boo-hoo-hoo when "Iris" comes on. Any thinking about my mom kind of growing up with me and how hard she worked to be good. My dearest friend, who's been dead for like three years. World War Z, almost ANY chapter. Television shows. Commercials for pediatric hospitals. Considering whether the unbroken line of my ancestors would be proud or ashamed of who I am. etc. etc. etc. etc, going about my business with a kleenex.

I don't require any advice, if it's perimeno, then it's nothing; if it's reta, it'll likely fade off in time, and I don't live a life where a little bit of crying will disrupt anything. But I thought I saw a couple of people talking about mood swings with reta, and I may be having some. Just thought I'd add my data-point to the pool.
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Dont be sad Random.... we love you and WW3 should start in a few months anyway so dont worry.... maybe cut back on that 750mg of testosterone a week and up the arimidex. Hugs.
 
PS maybe get your hormone levels checked. I've been reading so many feel better with HRT.
 
randompersonrandom said:
I didn't really notice it sooner because I'm perimenopausal and on a three week cycle, which means I'm living a bit....intensely these days, emotionally. But one of my coworkers mentioned casually that it seems like I've been crying a lot (they haven't witnessed it firsthand or anything, but since I'm not a regular weeper, it's something that comes up in "yesterday after I got off work" stories.) I kinda dismissed it and figured it's because I'm waiting to bleed. But I'm cleaning and kid-proofing because my not-daughter is visiting tomorrow with my not-granddaughter, and realized I was absently crying while I unload the dishwasher.

So I thought it over, and yep; I HAVE had a fair spike since mid-march. I'm fairly happy life-wise; and I'm not depressed or hurting or in a bad place; the stuff I'm crying over is like, the full gamut. Dear Evan Hansen. Literally any poem about a spider. My boss presented me with a division award yesterday and didn't use ChatGPT to write his remarks because he knew I'd be hurt by that, so he took the time to say HIMSELF what he meant. A bunch of songs from Hamilton. My dead father. A guy I was in love with in high school, who I am NOT in love with now but I sure was then and now boo-hoo-hoo when "Iris" comes on. Any thinking about my mom kind of growing up with me and how hard she worked to be good. My dearest friend, who's been dead for like three years. World War Z, almost ANY chapter. Television shows. Commercials for pediatric hospitals. Considering whether the unbroken line of my ancestors would be proud or ashamed of who I am. etc. etc. etc. etc, going about my business with a kleenex.

I don't require any advice, if it's perimeno, then it's nothing; if it's reta, it'll likely fade off in time, and I don't live a life where a little bit of crying will disrupt anything. But I thought I saw a couple of people talking about mood swings with reta, and I may be having some. Just thought I'd add my data-point to the pool.
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Hey… I just want to say, this was really beautifully written, and also so familiar to me.

I’m in perimenopause too, and there was a point where I had almost this exact realization… like, “wait… why am I crying over everything lately?” Not in a sad or broken way, just… everything felt closer to the surface.

For me….what was happening hormonally explained so much of what you’re describing. In perimenopause, estrogen doesn’t just slowly decline… it actually fluctuates a lot, sometimes pretty dramatically.

The shorter cycle you mentioned matters too. A 3-week cycle often means hormones are shifting faster, and sometimes progesterone (which has more of a calming effect) doesn’t stick around as long. So you can end up spending more time in that “emotionally open” state.

For me personally, perimenopause changed a lot more than I expected it to. I didn’t feel like myself for a while, and I couldn’t quite explain why. Starting HRT made a really meaningful difference… not in a numbing way, just in a steadier, more grounded way.

And just to say this part clearly… nothing in what you wrote sounds concerning. You sound self-aware, grounded, and actually very connected to your life and your experiences. If anything, it reads like your brain is just letting more emotion through right now.

You’re definitely not the only one who’s experienced this ❤️
 
Hang in there. There is a reason you are on Reta (or tirz). Keep that goal in mind, loosing weight. Get enough sleep. Glp1's trigger all sorts of chemical reactions in the body. Yours could be more intense. Talking about it is a first good step. Maybe a personal diary to note your progress/journey with Reta.
 
Airborne Daddy said:
Dont be sad Random.... we love you and WW3 should start in a few months anyway so dont worry.... maybe cut back on that 750mg of testosterone a week and up the arimidex. Hugs.
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dumb of me to lose all that weight RIGHT before the worldwide famine starts! If only I'd waited, I could have bought myself a few extra months of surviving on chickweed and dried beans!
 
randompersonrandom said:
I didn't really notice it sooner because I'm perimenopausal and on a three week cycle, which means I'm living a bit....intensely these days, emotionally. But one of my coworkers mentioned casually that it seems like I've been crying a lot (they haven't witnessed it firsthand or anything, but since I'm not a regular weeper, it's something that comes up in "yesterday after I got off work" stories.) I kinda dismissed it and figured it's because I'm waiting to bleed. But I'm cleaning and kid-proofing because my not-daughter is visiting tomorrow with my not-granddaughter, and realized I was absently crying while I unload the dishwasher.

So I thought it over, and yep; I HAVE had a fair spike since mid-march. I'm fairly happy life-wise; and I'm not depressed or hurting or in a bad place; the stuff I'm crying over is like, the full gamut. Dear Evan Hansen. Literally any poem about a spider. My boss presented me with a division award yesterday and didn't use ChatGPT to write his remarks because he knew I'd be hurt by that, so he took the time to say HIMSELF what he meant. A bunch of songs from Hamilton. My dead father. A guy I was in love with in high school, who I am NOT in love with now but I sure was then and now boo-hoo-hoo when "Iris" comes on. Any thinking about my mom kind of growing up with me and how hard she worked to be good. My dearest friend, who's been dead for like three years. World War Z, almost ANY chapter. Television shows. Commercials for pediatric hospitals. Considering whether the unbroken line of my ancestors would be proud or ashamed of who I am. etc. etc. etc. etc, going about my business with a kleenex.

I don't require any advice, if it's perimeno, then it's nothing; if it's reta, it'll likely fade off in time, and I don't live a life where a little bit of crying will disrupt anything. But I thought I saw a couple of people talking about mood swings with reta, and I may be having some. Just thought I'd add my data-point to the pool.
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How old are you? Perimenopause is insane. I got on birth control to stop the roller coaster. The straw in the camel's back was a four hour crying bout that felt completely out of control. I also had (and sometimes still have) some very "meh" days, where nothing sounds good to me.

I would never discount that it could be the Reta, and I am sure that you know your body best. But peri is a lot. If you have lost some weight, I would think that could cause your hormones to fluctuate more than normal as well.

Sending hugs and take care of yourself!
 
randompersonrandom said:
The pilot and the skywatcher. I've been bawling at that one for twenty years. But I got to the part where the sergent finds the turtle and starts whispering to it and just lost my shit.

Thanks y'all for the kind words. I really am fine and not in like constant pain or anything. It's not even anhedonia, I had that for several months with tirz but not so much on tirz. It didn't feel like this; it just felt like "there is nothing in particular that I care about doing." This is more "I am bopping along thinking about work and my bicycle and then I read a poem about a spider and am on the couch going boo hoo hoo and then I go get on my bicycle." It's what makes me think that if it's not perimeno, it's reta; there's a kind of emotional that feels chemical rather than situational.
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Sending warm hugs..
I know you dont want advice but having survived peri, then going into depression with Meno.. I can tell you that adding hormones really helps. I couldnt get them for a long time, so I tried other ways; dark chocolate and cacao powder, frothed in warm milk, with cinnamon and nutmeg. I highly recommend soy milk for the isoflavones,.. walks and reading under trees.
Sunlight and Vit D3. herbal teas with saffron. All of these helped me, but HRT solved the issue.
Having said that the daily events happening in the world are horrific and the sadness is pervasive. I want to cry right now. You are not alone, I am here too.
💗💗💗
 
RosebudFox said:
How old are you? Perimenopause is insane. I got on birth control to stop the roller coaster. The straw in the camel's back was a four hour crying bout that felt completely out of control. I also had (and sometimes still have) some very "meh" days, where nothing sounds good to me.
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45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are

desinr-gal said:
Sending warm hugs..
I know you dont want advice but having survived peri, then going into depression with Meno.. I can tell you that adding hormones really helps. I couldnt get them for a long time, so I tried other ways; dark chocolate and cacao powder, frothed in warm milk, with cinnamon and nutmeg. I highly recommend soy milk for the isoflavones,.. walks and reading under trees.
Sunlight and Vit D3. herbal teas with saffron. All of these helped me, but HRT solved the issue.
Having said that the daily events happening in the world are horrific and the sadness is pervasive. I want to cry right now. You are not alone, I am here too.
💗💗💗
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Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.
 
randompersonrandom said:
45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are


Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.
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Cold green tea with jasmine in my water bottle is lovely also. Ito-en makes them so they work in cool water..
 
Has anyone added in any peptides to counteract the anhedonia from reta or tirz? Any that might work for it?
 
randompersonrandom said:
45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are


Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.
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Yes! HRT saved me from all those useless perimenopause feels: night sweats, frequent bleeds and random sadness. When I was interviewing my new patients, the women on HRT were ageless. I decided I’d follow their example, despite the claims of adverse coronary artery consequences . Nowadays, HRT ‘s part of my longevity protocol for my bones, my skin, my hair, my brain, my IQ!
 
Good-Heart6425 said:
Yes! HRT saved me from all those useless perimenopause feels: night sweats, frequent bleeds and random sadness. When I was interviewing my new patients, the women on HRT were ageless. I decided I’d follow their example, despite the claims of adverse coronary artery consequences . Nowadays, HRT ‘s part of my longevity protocol for my bones, my skin, my hair, my brain, my IQ!
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ok, this is the post that convinced me, I'm calling my doc on Monday and saying ok let's do it.
 
My OB/GYN prescribed bio identical HRT; i.e., estradiol and Prometrium and reviews/renews my prescriptions annually.

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services ... Alicia Jackson, PhD: “Estrogen is one of the most effective longevity interventions for women

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randompersonrandom said:
ok, this is the post that convinced me, I'm calling my doc on Monday and saying ok let's do it.
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Just a quick comment to say if you do get an Rx for HRT (which I hope you do!) there's been a stupid national (global?) shortage of estradiol due to the FDA removing the black box warning (which was loooonggggg overdue) and so many more women over the last few years realizing it's safe and effective after all.
We're all out here hopping pharmacy to pharmacy to be sure we get the supply every re-order. And as many women have moaned about it: this would never happen with a drug for men.
 
ThatNextGril said:
there's been a stupid national (global?) shortage of estradiol due to the FDA removing the black box warning
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Damn that was fairly recent too. Within the past year. Thanks for sharing. Glad to know this is relatively safe.
 
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