Big Weight Loss Crew: What Surprised You Most?

You know, I did consider a career in pimping, but I didn't want the hassle of dealing with women. Duh! But you're saying we can use socks instead? Is there a good enough market for that? I mean, I have heard of people stuffing their sausage into a sock while beating the monkey, but I didn't know they
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What surprised me the most was the reaction of other people. I'm down 112lbs, which for me is 46% of my body weight and a change from a BMI of 39 to 21. My spouse was looking at some pre-weight loss photos. It was painful to see, but I understand other people's reaction. I don't recognize myself. It is a complete transformation. After decades of looking at fat me, even I am still struggling to accept that the new me is really me.
I’m still adjusting to the “new me.” When I look at a size M or S shirt, it’s hard to believe it will actually fit. I’ve also seen photos where I’m in the background and had to do a double take—like, is that really me?
 
I dont even know where to start with the positive side of the loss (very almost 70ibs)

clothes fitting, back to my old style, as a female men are way nicer to me and willing to help (sadly true, men literally flock to help me vs when i was fat i was invisible. not trying to brag but ive always been decently pretty as well the whole time!), fitting into roller coasters without worry(never got turned away but damn i was close), fitting into seats, walking around is just easier, my confidence (weird one, i am way more critical of myself now and hate my reflection more than when i was 240ibs, but i am shocked at photos in a good way), intimacy, taking photos doesnt make me freak out, and so much more....
My rock bottom came at an amusement park. About three years ago, while vacationing in Florida, I couldn’t get on a ride with my kids because of the weight limit. We’re going back this summer—and this time, I’m getting my revenge.
 
Pros:
-I've lost 135lbs. Which is insane. That is a whole person. It is insane to see the numbers on the scale.
-I no longer look like I am pregnant and thus no longer have random strangers asking when I am due or touching my stomach thinking a kid will kick (something will kick them, that's for sure.)
-My health is so much better overall, I no longer have sleep apnea, I no longer need treatment for asthma, so many meds either went way down or are no longer needed.
-Doctors almost ALMOST take me seriously now, vs saying "if you'd lose weight, you wouldn't have whatever ailment that has nothing to do with weight."
-I got my back fixed so I averted paralysis and regained 2 1/2 inches of my height back.
-I can run now, and run a lot. And lift a lot. And I am strong AF.
-I can wear pretty much anything I want. And a lot of my clothing is kids clothing now, vs being unable to find stuff large enough.
-The general public is nicer now, as if I suddenly have value and their permission to live, at least when they aren't being catty or discounting my hard work.
-Heat doesn't absolutely kill me anymore.
-People don't recognize me so I don't have to engage lol (this is such a huge perk!)
-I can get like 3-4 meals out of damn near every nice meal out.

Cons:
-Extra skin on my stomach makes it hard to see all my progress, and will cost more than a car to remove. Botox can handle the turkey waddle on my neck a little but that also will cost a lot to deal with.
-I cannot see how I really look--I am still that fatty in the mirror, and still refer to myself as fata**.
-Maintenance is expensive...Botox costs more, GLPs, protein stuff, meat, etc. And having to buy new clothing was not inexpensive either. (But kids clothes are way cheaper so win!)
-Maintenance overall is time consuming--rebuilding the lost muscle from a combination of fast weight lost and recovering from massive surgeries has been a long and challenging road. Meal prepping, making sure I have a supply of my GLPs, way more botox than before, etc.
-My OCD gets seriously flared up when the scale fluctuates. Tirz does help that, but sometimes it's like a total compulsion spiral.
-People are catty and while I have no problem handling that in a less than polite manner, it's still obnoxious. I also think it's weird that despite looking ripped, people think I am some frail little weakling.
-Men still don't hit on me (I am actually ok with that for the most part 🤣), and unfortunately the only ones that reciprocate "interest" when I hit on them are married and I am not tolerant of that.
-I get dehydrated SUPER fast, so I need to hammer electrolytes pretty often since water goes through me faster than most people (bariatric surgery related.) I have to bring a lot of water with me for tournament weekends so that I can keep myself hydrated.
-This is more related to the bariatric part, but I cannot just spontaneously go eat somewhere. There's a lot of timing and planning involved.

Down 83 lbs, and at maintenance.

Airline travel, absolutely! Not only do I fit in the seat better, but now I usually have to tighten the seatbelt from whoever was sitting there last, rather than loosen it almost to the end. 🙂

People I interact with in public are nicer to me. Sad, but true. 🙂

My husband's and kids' friends tell them I'm hot. 🤭

Not sweating at the slightest hint of heat or exertion. 🙂

Having to buy all new clothes. 🙁

Extra skin on my abdomen and under my chin. 🙁

And, yeah, sitting on hard surfaces. 🙁
Hell to the yes on that sweating thing. I can sit out all day at a baseball tournament in the summer or will run in jeans during lunch on a 95 degree day, and while I will sweat, I am also not dying from heat exhaustion! That's a biggie.

But that extra skin...ugh. I worked so hard to get ripped, and I know my abs are probably pretty nice but you'd never know it because of the skin in the way. If it didn't cost a fortune to get taken care of, I'd totally do it.

What surprised me the most was the reaction of other people. I'm down 112lbs, which for me is 46% of my body weight and a change from a BMI of 39 to 21. My spouse was looking at some pre-weight loss photos. It was painful to see, but I understand other people's reaction. I don't recognize myself. It is a complete transformation. After decades of looking at fat me, even I am still struggling to accept that the new me is really me.
THAT right there. That is a big one. I do not see myself in the mirror at all. I have always had to do side-by-side photos of before and after to really see it and even then, I do not see it.

My therapist follows my instagram (as does my surgeon), and part of my therapy was that I had to post a selfie or a full body shot everyday so that I can see what everyone else sees -- so any post I made about working out or progress had to include that. I absolutely HATE it, I still hate it every damn day I post, and I always apologize to anyone who follows me because it's basically a nightmare of vanity for me. Like my face is this whole sea for yeeears. I hate it.
 
Its nice when you see the scale go down every week, but the best feeling is giggling the belly when the fat cells are shrinking, just walking around all day wobbling that thing 😂
 
THAT right there. That is a big one. I do not see myself in the mirror at all. I have always had to do side-by-side photos of before and after to really see it and even then, I do not see it.
Huh, never knew this could be a problem. I have
my suspicions on the why. Hmmmm.... I am not usually a glass half full kinda guy, but in this case, I suppose I'd put it in a list of good problems to have.

I still hate it every damn day I post, and I always apologize to anyone who follows me because it's basically a nightmare of vanity for me. Like my face is this whole sea for yeeears. I hate it.
Damn! Nope, you can have that problem.

But that extra skin...ugh. I worked so hard to get ripped, and I know my abs are probably pretty nice but you'd never know it because of the skin in the way. If it didn't cost a fortune to get taken care of, I'd totally do it.
I've heard people say that Brazil, Turkey, India, South Korea, are great places to visit... Benjamin Franklin goes a long way there, but even George Washington has value there.
-Men still don't hit on me (I am actually ok with that for the most part 🤣), and unfortunately the only ones that reciprocate "interest" when I hit on them are married and I am not tolerant of that.
Yeah that tracks. Women and their hypergamy also include their innate pre-vetting and social confirmation. It's due to the extra X chromosome. It comes naturally. It's instinctive. Why fight evolutionary psychology? It's as instinctive as dressing like you're looking for a husband who is gonna croak soon.

Hell to the yes on that sweating thing. I can sit out all day at a baseball tournament in the summer or will run in jeans during lunch on a 95 degree day, and while I will sweat, I am also not dying from heat exhaustion!
Yeah, I have the opposite problem. Put me in the Grand Canyon, and it will turn into a riverbank. I mean, there's hyperhidrosis, and there's the next stage- me.

People are catty and while I have no problem handling that in a less than polite manner, it's still obnoxious
You deal with catties, you get a laser. Drives them nuts, every single time. Yeah politeness is overrated AF. Only the mission matters: No quarter given. Let those futhercuckers go to North Korea.

have random strangers asking when I am due or touching my stomach thinking a kid will kick (something will kick them, that's for sure.)
That's right. "Hands open doorknobs, legs break down doors"- Thunderlegs. Kick away.

I also think it's weird that despite looking ripped, people think I am some frail little weakling.
Yeah, you see, it's innate in us. You may deadlift more than us, but our Y chromosome doesn't have eyes.

Heat doesn't absolutely kill me anymore.
I want this. Right now. Give.

-}-Oh yes, and for me, I have no idea yet why, but the sudden weight loss of around 80lbs led to areas of "chicken skin" on my body.
-}-Additionally, my skin dries up quickly, almost as fast as something else does when The View appears on TV.
-}-The aforementioned appendage, allergic to the View, now suffers from a delusion usually seen in those bereft of a Y chromosome. It thinks it's Forever 21.
 
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Huh, never knew this could be a problem. I have
my suspicions on the why. Hmmmm.... I am not usually a glass half full kinda guy, but in this case, I suppose I'd put it in a list of good problems to have.


Damn! Nope, you can have that problem.


I've heard people say that Brazil, Turkey, India, South Korea, are great places to visit... Benjamin Franklin goes a long way there, but even George Washington has value there.

Yeah that tracks. Women and their hypergamy also include their innate pre-vetting and social confirmation. It's due to the extra X chromosome. It comes naturally. It's instinctive. Why fight evolutionary psychology? It's as instinctive as dressing like you're looking for a husband who is gonna croak soon.


Yeah, I have the opposite problem. Put me in the Grand Canyon, and it will turn into a riverbank. I mean, there's hyperhidrosis, and there's the next stage- me.


You deal with catties, you get a laser. Drives them nuts, every single time. Yeah politeness is overrated AF. Only the mission matters: No quarter given. Let those futhercuckers go to North Korea.


That's right. "Hands open doorknobs, legs break down doors"- Thunderlegs. Kick away.


Yeah, you see, it's innate in us. You may deadlift more than us, but our Y chromosome doesn't have eyes.


I want this. Right now. Give.
I thought recently I was developing hyper-hydrosis but it turns out it was hot flashes. That one you can definitely keep.

So, I have started digging into traveling for plastics, but it's still a little daunting. South Korea is particularly good for facial surgeries, and I've heard Mexico, Brazil and especially Turkey for the body, but I cannot convince myself to do that abroad because I have a few friends who have done tummy tucks locally to varying degrees (from simple panniculectomies to full on fleur de lis 360s), and their recoveries were rough especially for the latter since they are basically repairing your abs. The idea of getting on a plane a few days later for that many hours and layovers is not sounding favorable. But I do need to dress for the dying husband I want, so that might be worth it 🤣 OR maybe I need to marry him and then let him pay for it.

Golden Girls Flirting GIF by HULU
 
as a female men are way nicer to me and willing to help (sadly true, men literally flock to help me vs when i was fat i was invisible. not trying to brag but ive always been decently pretty as well the whole time!)
See! There's the evidence. And they say we only care about looks. This proves that we care about what's inside, too. Absolutely. We care if it's a C or D instead of an H or I.
 
But I do need to dress for the dying husband I want, so that might be worth it 🤣 OR maybe I need to marry him and then let him pay for it.
See, that's the kinda strategic thinking I'm talkin' about. I can do logic quite well. Why not do both? Snag the geriatric whose eyes are not quite up to the mark, make him pay, or add your name to the will.

I've heard Mexico, Brazil and especially Turkey for the body, but I cannot convince myself to do that abroad because I have a few friends who have done tummy tucks locally to varying degrees (from simple panniculectomies to full on fleur de lis 360s), and their recoveries were rough especially for the latter since they are basically repairing your abs. The idea of getting on a plane a few days later for that many hours and layovers is not sounding favorable
Yeah, the layover and multiple flights is a pain in the glutes. You could look into options in India. I can personally attest to the quality of medical care, but I also know about Brazil through the experience of a friend. She is doing exceptionally well. She went from a 4 to a 7 and turned unrecognizable.
 
weird one, i am way more critical of myself now and hate my reflection more than when i was 240ibs
Na it isn't weird. When we are obese, we become lethargic and defeatist, thinking that our state is insurmountable. But when the weight is gone, we look at hitherto 'minor' imperfections more critically because we no longer have the "shelter" excuse of the enormous obesity obstacle. We think, okay, now if we could overcome THAT, then these should be doable.
 
I thought recently I was developing hyper-hydrosis but it turns out it was hot flashes. That one you can definitely keep.

So, I have started digging into traveling for plastics, but it's still a little daunting. South Korea is particularly good for facial surgeries, and I've heard Mexico, Brazil and especially Turkey for the body, but I cannot convince myself to do that abroad because I have a few friends who have done tummy tucks locally to varying degrees (from simple panniculectomies to full on fleur de lis 360s), and their recoveries were rough especially for the latter since they are basically repairing your abs. The idea of getting on a plane a few days later for that many hours and layovers is not sounding favorable. But I do need to dress for the dying husband I want, so that might be worth it 🤣 OR maybe I need to marry him and then let him pay for it.

Golden Girls Flirting GIF by HULU
I traveled to the Dominican Republic with a friend who had a mommy makeover that included a Brazilian butt lift and if was definitely a hard trip home. The results were spectacular! The cost was much more affordable between all the things (air, accommodations, personal driver, surgeon, private clinic). They have a whole surgical vacation thing there. Even recovery houses where they take care of your post op needs. I'm an RN and I was impressed.
 
113lbs down as of this morning, so I'm thinking that that would qualify me for the "big weight loss crew" 😂

Best things:
  • Easier air travel
  • Buying new clothes
  • Greater mobility

Worst thing:
- The huge pile of clothes that I have waiting to be donated that I just can't get my hands around both physically and mentally. I've come to realize that I must also have a clothes addiction in addition to a food addition. I never knew. My closets are full of clothes that don't fit me and it's a struggle sometimes to find an outfit that I don't look ridiculous wearing.

I did a donation about 5 months ago of 3x and 4x tops and 42-56 waist shorts and pants. It was about 5 large garbage bags full of stuff. But that was super easy, because all of that stuff was huge. Now I need to remove size 38-42 shorts/pants and 2X tops. I could probably remove 1X tops too, but that's going to be a tough sell.
 
See! There's the evidence. And they say we only care about looks. This proves that we care about what's inside, too. Absolutely. We care if it's a C or D instead of an H or I.
You cheeky sod! 😆
Na it isn't weird. When we are obese, we become lethargic and defeatist, thinking that our state is insurmountable. But when the weight is gone, we look at hitherto 'minor' imperfections more critically because we no longer have the "shelter" excuse of the enormous obesity obstacle. We think, okay, now if we could overcome THAT, then these should be doable.
very true actually.. its hard to put myself in that mental space again but i deffo think thats whats going on here. its a slippery slope for sure, its like i didnt care at all before (i was previously very alternative presenting when i was fat, loads of piercings, dyed hair, the lot), now ive gone back to who i was before (taken all the piercings out, natural blonde hair, 'basic' style) its like im chasing this standard that i will never meet. ive now moved onto my face and analysing what work to get done when i finish losing the rest of my weight.. only 30 ibs to go is insane to my goal weight when i started, ill be finishing at 100ib loss if i meet it. its crazy how ive spiralled into chasing this version of myself that doesnt exist and probably never will because ive lost the weight. i was never fat growing up, just the past 2ish years of my life i gained 100+ ibs due to life doing life things, so it was really hard for me to be her. now i feel like im back its like, damn, ive unlocked this side of insecurity that never existed if i had never gained so much weight, almost? i wish i had never gained it in the first place, but damn its taught me so many valuable lessons
 
You cheeky sod!
Guilty as charged.

(i was previously very alternative presenting when i was fat, loads of piercings, dyed hair, the lot), now ive gone back to who i was before (taken all the piercings out, natural blonde hair, 'basic' style) its like im chasing this standard that i will never meet.
That tracks too. It's like acceptance of surrender. Something like okay, I'm not in the classic mold of attractiveness so let's 'experiment'. What difference would it make? That sort of thing.

its crazy how ive spiralled into chasing this version of myself that doesnt exist and probably never will because ive lost the weight.
I didn't get that. I thought losing the weight would make that ideal version of yourself more attainable. I fathom that the proximity to this ideal state might make the self-perceived pressure more tangible and pronounced. Folks often justify their state with excuses to themselves. But the closer one gets to their goal, the harder it becomes to accept the excuse. It can become a sunk-cost fallacy if the goal is unrealistic. In your case, though, I don't think that applies. The realization of the dearth of valid excuses can lead to doubt about competence in achieving that goal, which can manifest as anxiety, self-doubt, and insecurity at times.

I'm a little fortunate in that regard. I usually deal with such things with a combination of "Fvck it" and "Sod off". Admittedly, that could be due to the Y chromosome within my nuclei.
 
- The huge pile of clothes that I have waiting to be donated that I just can't get my hands around both physically and mentally. I've come to realize that I must also have a clothes addiction in addition to a food addition. I never knew. My closets are full of clothes that don't fit me and it's a struggle sometimes to find an outfit that I don't look ridiculous wearing.

I did a donation about 5 months ago of 3x and 4x tops and 42-56 waist shorts and pants. It was about 5 large garbage bags full of stuff. But that was super easy, because all of that stuff was huge. Now I need to remove size 38-42 shorts/pants and 2X tops. I could probably remove 1X tops too, but that's going to be a tough sell.
It's all a matter of perspective. I've no addiction to clothes except maybe taking them off. I've not bought clothes for myself in years. And yet, there is a storage shed in my yard filled with suitcases of old clothes that I will never use. It brings me misery thinking of their isolated, unwarranted existence and I didn't even buy them. The women in my life did. The pounds I lost include the 80 from my body and the infinite amount from my wallet.
 
The results were spectacular!
Some claims strain credulity. Evidence required.

The cost was much more affordable between all the things (air, accommodations, personal driver, surgeon, private clinic). They have a whole surgical vacation thing there. Even recovery houses where they take care of your post op needs. I'm an RN and I was impressed.
Yup, medical tourism rocks, if you don't despise travel. Sigh!
 
I prob don't "fit" lol in this group yet. Started at 328 and currently down over 21lbs in 5 weeks (slow dose titration), but my sleep apnea and snoring have completely resolved already. I've been waking up at 4am like an adrenaline shot!! Attitude has changed dramatically already...I actually enjoy being alive! Also lab work, a1c, etc, etc. All good things.
 
-Definitely more clothing options now
-Not feeling embarrassed or like I have to try and hide how fat I am with a jacket or something.
-Being able to go to a doctor with a concern and have them not assume it is because of or related to my weight.

And for worst, I agree about the hard surfaces! I've never had a big butt even when fat, but there's definitely inadequate cushion now lol. Also loose skin.
 
I prob don't "fit" lol in this group yet. Started at 328 and currently down over 21lbs in 5 weeks (slow dose titration), but my sleep apnea and snoring have completely resolved already. I've been waking up at 4am like an adrenaline shot!! Attitude has changed dramatically already...I actually enjoy being alive! Also lab work, a1c, etc, etc. All good things.
Hell yeah you’re in this group! Feeling better and living better is where it all starts!
 
113lbs down as of this morning, so I'm thinking that that would qualify me for the "big weight loss crew" 😂

I did a donation about 5 months ago of 3x and 4x tops and 42-56 waist shorts and pants. It was about 5 large garbage bags full of stuff. But that was super easy, because all of that stuff was huge. Now I need to remove size 38-42 shorts/pants and 2X tops. I could probably remove 1X tops too, but that's going to be a tough sell.
This is literally my life. Bags upon bags full of XLs-4XLs, and I where M and S now in shirts - 32 pants. 😩
 
-Definitely more clothing options now
-Not feeling embarrassed or like I have to try and hide how fat I am with a jacket or something.
-Being able to go to a doctor with a concern and have them not assume it is because of or related to my weight.

And for worst, I agree about the hard surfaces! I've never had a big butt even when fat, but there's definitely inadequate cushion now lol. Also loose skin.
1000% on the clothes. I don't know if I've earned the right to comment here yet bc I have not yet lost all the weight I need to. But just going from 190>160 made such a difference in my clothing options. It's the first time I could even consider having any sense of "style". Whereas before, my shopping experience was more like:

Does this make me look fat?
- Yes
Does this make me look fat?
- Yes
Does this make me look fat?
- Yes but at least the person standing in line behind me can't count my back rolls to pass time. I guess I'll buy this shirt.
 
Weirdly I find that massages really hurt when there is less protection (fat). It could also be that I didn't really enjoy them before anyway.
 
Weirdly I find that massages really hurt when there is less protection (fat). It could also be that I didn't really enjoy them before anyway.
Oh man, I was thinking of getting a massage soon, and I didn't think about this! I don't think I've had a massage since I lost weight and now I'm worried it won't be worth it.
 

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