How have people reacted to you taking weightloss drugs?

cheaperseeker said:
I don't think it has to mean they were never your friend. People are complex and multifaceted. They can be your friend and feel better about themselves because of how you look.

Once you've been thin for a while, they'll either get used to it, or drift away. That's when you'll know if they were only in it for the confidence boost.
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I'd say 95% of the time, in my experience anyway, when having you around no longer benefits them either because of insecurity or financial reasons, they show their true selves and take themselves out of your life. Ideally by slow fade, but usually in the form of a bonfire. In my teens, 20s and 30s, I was so desperate to be liked and accepted, that I tolerated being used and a lot of other nonsense. Somewhere between growing the set I needed to leave my marriage and recovering from my year of surgeries in 2021/2022, a switch flipped and I will tolerate NOTHING now. Like, one perceived slight and you'll never see me again.
 
I try to be as transparent and helpful about it as I can be, have not had anyone being (openly) judgmental. Have had plenty of people calling me crazy for injecting untested chinese peptides (which personally I think is a pretty fair reaction). Have also gotten a number of people receptive and interested and starting their journey.
 
I think it's all about managing expectations. My friends and family already expect me to be an odd ball and nothing surprises them anymore. This isn't the only "experiment" I've done over the years, so they don't really care.
 
randompersonrandom said:
She must have sobered up or gone to bed. WISE CHOICE.
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vultures are no longer what they used to be. Now they think they can be owls.
domin8brix said:
a switch flipped and I will tolerate NOTHING now. Like, one perceived slight and you'll never see me again
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For a moment, I thought you were going to pull out a wallet that had the initials BMF on it and quote Ezekiel 25:17.
 
BNLFL said:
I call it assbook, and have never had a FB account. My wife does and she used it to stay in touch with family. She has 6 siblings all over the US. She hasn't been on in since she retired a year or so ago. Now they group chat on the phone. They had me in there, but made them take me off. Damn phone would go off constant when they started going.
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I honestly really love Facebook; it lets me sort of keep myself available to so many people I genuinely like and show what I'm working on or what neat things I saw, and keeps me up to date on what's going on WITH people I genuinely like. The trick for me has been to use it ONLY for those things. And with a very few exceptions, I see you out there on FB being a shitty person, and I'm blocking you without discussion, that will simply not be a space where we interact.
 
domin8brix said:
I am atheist so if I start talking about bible verses I've been possessed by some demon.
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""And I will execute great vengeance upon them with furious rebukes; and they shall know that I am the Lord, when I shall lay my vengeance upon them". The famous monologue recited by Jules Winnfield (Samuel L. Jackson) in Pulp Fiction is a modified, largely fabricated version of Ezekiel 25:17 blended with other biblical phrases.
 
domin8brix said:
This is 1000% bang on. They felt superior to their fat friend, and now that the fat friend isn't so fat, their insecurities are running wild. They dump on the person, sabotage the person, anything they can come up with to do anything to derail or minimize the other person so they can regain that power dynamic. It's also how you know they were never really your friend, it was an arrangement that they benefited from.


I triple dog dare anyone to do that shit to me, I will light their world on fire.
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I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.
That was effectively the end of our friendship.
wykyk
 
randompersonrandom said:
I honestly really love Facebook; it lets me sort of keep myself available to so many people I genuinely like and show what I'm working on or what neat things I saw, and keeps me up to date on what's going on WITH people I genuinely like. The trick for me has been to use it ONLY for those things. And with a very few exceptions, I see you out there on FB being a shitty person, and I'm blocking you without discussion, that will simply not be a space where we interact.
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The ones that drive me nuts are the ones who post were they're are and what they're eating. My DIL, who I love is one of those.
 
BNLFL said:
The ones that drive me nuts are the ones who post were they're are and what they're eating. My DIL, who I love is one of those.
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I'd cut my tongue out before I commented "For goodness sake, if you don't have anything to say, why not go do something else?" because everybody gets to have their own space and nobody needs me in there mouthing off just because I'm a middle aged woman and therefore DEEPLY convinced that I must. But I'm not gonna lie, I THINK it every time I see that!
 
desinr-gal said:
I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.
That was effectively the end of our friendship.
wykyk
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Shows how little they value you and the friendship when they don't have that feeling of superiority anymore!
 
domin8brix said:
Shows how little they value you and the friendship when they don't have that feeling of superiority anymore!
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Yes exactly.. I am wondering who will drop out now, given the weightloss, and sobriety..
I already have a friendship on the rocks over an upset in perceived superiority related to intelligence. We started playing Mahjong together and I am doing quite well at it, which seems to make her very tense, and often unpleasant. I realized that though we have played games together before; I was always the one learning a game that she already knew. So she was always superior in that way.
I have begun really reassessing my friendships.
 
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desinr-gal said:
Yes exactly.. I am wondering who will drop out now, given the weightloss, and sobriety..
I already have a friendship on the rocks over an upset in perceived superiority related to intelligence. We started playing Mahjong together and I am doing quite well at it, which seems to make her very tense, and often unpleasant. I realized that though we have played games together before; I was always the one learning a game that she already knew. So she was always superior in that way.
I have begun really reassessing my friendships.
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She reminds me of my ex and his “friend”. They loved being the one introducing someone to a new game and then beating them repeatedly. My ex used to study the game after being beaten that first time and go back and stomp the friend and come back so happy
 
domin8brix said:
My ex used to study the game after being beaten that first time and go back and stomp the friend and come back so happy
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So your ex was a man, huh? Okay. I dont know if I could pick a more quintessentially manly thing off the top of my head [I can, but it's very close.]
 
Btw, you guys have now made me wonder what would happen after I changed. I don't have too many close friends, and I prefer it that way, but I already had a mild experience akin to what you guys underwent, when I went to my 20 year reunion in 2025. If things go the way I plan, the 30 year one may be calamitous.
 
desinr-gal said:
I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.
That was effectively the end of our friendship.
wykyk
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This is soooo shitty! Wow how people show their true colors.
She must have been so insecure that she used the bigger you as a way to feel better about herself. She was never your friend!
I am still amazed to what extent people go to shame people that are overweight just so they feel better about themselves.

I recently quit contact with an acquitance (not a friend) I partied with that is a real gymrat and likes to let everybody around her know she doesn't eat carbs and that she is very attractive and thin. Yes she really says that outloud and in the mirror at parties when she is drunk/elevated.
She only wants to party with me so she looks very thin next to me.
When she talked shit about her sister (my best friend) for gaining weight I quit hanging out with her.
I find it unbelievable that people need to comment on other people's weight.
 
desinr-gal said:
I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.
That was effectively the end of our friendship.
wykyk
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Can you imagine acting THAT out of pocket, and nothing in your head triggers to consider that you're being weird and petty in front of someone and making it their problem? Neither I nor many of my friends are immune to petty jealousy, we're not angels and don't try to be, but if one of us is having a petty meltdown we would like, loudly disclose it with something like "OH MY GOD YOU SKINNY BITCH I WAS ALWAYS THE SKINNY ONE AND NOW I'M NOT AND I AM NOT OK RIGHT NOW, HOW DARE YOUUUUUU" so that at least someone can get some amusement out of our petty-bitchness and not feel like they have to manage it. (and so the petty-bitch sufferer can remind herself that feelings are ok but let's feel them, acknowledge them, laugh at them, and not let them make us act up to other people.)

I would be so embarrassed to go wilding in front of someone like that with no mitigating acknowledgement.
 
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Smiter said:
So your ex was a man, huh? Okay. I dont know if I could pick a more quintessentially manly thing off the top of my head [I can, but it's very close.]
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Biologically, yes. But a giant piece of crap when it gets down to it. His mom knew what a nightmare he made my life, and her blessing was the reason I finally left. I am still close to her.

Smiter said:
Btw, you guys have now made me wonder what would happen after I changed. I don't have too many close friends, and I prefer it that way, but I already had a mild experience akin to what you guys underwent, when I went to my 20 year reunion in 2025. If things go the way I plan, the 30 year one may be calamitous.
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My 30th is this year, though I haven't attended a single one and have zero plans to change that. I got bullied relentlessly, and any friends I still have from that era went to the other high school in our district (they lived literally across the street but that was the dividing line for the bus routes and it was so f'ing stupid that they were geographically half a mile from my school, and 4 miles from theirs.)

BNLFL said:
Well, she's a female...
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That I sure am! My personality apparently leans very masculine, so I suspect most people assume I am a guy. I work with almost all guys, and have been in generally male industries most of my working life, and most of my friends are gay men.
 
Honestly, I haven't told anyone, and you're just better off keeping it a secret because then people think you're cheating when it's really just a tool to help you lose weight because you still have to be dialed in with macros, calories, and protein, and working out. People just think GLP1s is magic where you take it and you keep up your old habits and miraculously lose weight when in reality, it just helps you with your goal, and that's just really it since it cuts out all the food noise and suppression. You are still actively managing your calorie control, so a lot of people think it's cheating because it's just some background thing when in reality, it's like more of an active thing that you chose to do, and now you're thinking a lot about calories in general. So whenever someone asks or says something like, Have you lost weight? or you're looking good or something, just be like, yeah, I'm just hitting the gym more, and that's about it because that's the most normal answer, and no one's gonna judge you for saying you started lifting weights or started doing the stairmaster. I just feel like it's good not to tell anyone and just have them see the results.
 
domin8brix said:
His mom knew what a nightmare he made my life, and her blessing was the reason I finally left. I am still close to her
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That's sad, bub. I commiserate. So many out there don't deserve the testosterone they get.
domin8brix said:
My 30th is this year, though I haven't attended a single one and have zero plans to change that. I got bullied relentlessly
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Like I said before, I'm a man, so I assure you this is not meant to be offensive, but after hearing that, I kinda wanna see you go there. I mean, just to see their faces when they perceive the new you. NGL, I am imagining myself in your shoes, and I can't even fathom the depths of depravities I would visit in such a scenario. Damn..now I want to do it for my 30th. A 2k air fare vs all the peptides I could get for that...Ugh!
domin8brix said:
other high school in our district (they lived literally across the street but that was the dividing line for the bus routes and it was so f'ing stupid that they were geographically half a mile from my school, and 4 miles from theirs.)
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I'm a teacher. School choice and me are very well acquainted, believe me. I know her so well but I haven't seen her since moving to the West.
domin8brix said:
My personality apparently leans very masculine
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You don't say! I've news for you sister. personality? Try spirit. And masculine? Given the amount of simps out there, I think you would be more masculine than any ten of them, and that's a great thing.
domin8brix said:
so I suspect most people assume I am a guy
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See, now there is such a thing as too much hyperbole. Given how I know about project Dress-to-find-a-husband-that-will-croak-soon, and given your envious stats, I doubt anybody with a single functioning neuron would make that mistake.
domin8brix said:
and most of my friends are gay men
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Thank goodness. At least you said 'most'. I've hope.

Yesterday at the gym, a guy came upto me and asked if I was Egyptian. When I replied, he asked if I was a Brit. Then after my reply, he said he never knew there were obese Indians. I replied I didn't know there were live Yemenis. Then we worked out together for an hour, became friends, then my brother came, Yemeni's eyes popped out, he got confused, his worldview was destroyed. Heartbroken, he left and I continued training.
 
Smiter said:
Do you think the reason GLp'S work so well is that they make it very hard to keep those habits?
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The thing is, if you're not dialed in with nutrition and exercise before getting on a GLP-1, then once you get on one, it does become harder to eat. But...I wouldn't say GLP-1s make it so hard to keep those old habits because you can still choose to eat not so optimally after getting on them. Because they don't make it very hard, they just make it slightly easier not to gain weight. It simply just aids in your goal. So for example, if you choose a goal like, i wanna lose weight and I'm gonna be eating 1500 calories daily with high protein from now on, and then you get on reta, it'll just be harder to stray away from that 1500 a day goal. so it makes it easier to stick to your goal just because of the effects of reta on your brain chemstry. but the same person can choose to be like i dont care today and eat something and theyd get full quickly from it but then they messed up becuase they didnt hit their protein goal and may have overshot their calorie goal and then are left wonddering why the weight's not going down or the physique is not recomping as they'd like.
 
BNLFL said:
The ones that drive me nuts are the ones who post were they're are and what they're eating. My DIL, who I love is one of those.
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yes this became a thing..and most people stopped, but some still do. Especially when they travel.
Look what I have that you don't!
 
Smiter said:
That's sad, bub. I commiserate. So many out there don't deserve the testosterone they get.

Like I said before, I'm a man, so I assure you this is not meant to be offensive, but after hearing that, I kinda wanna see you go there. I mean, just to see their faces when they perceive the new you. NGL, I am imagining myself in your shoes, and I can't even fathom the depths of depravities I would visit in such a scenario. Damn..now I want to do it for my 30th. A 2k air fare vs all the peptides I could get for that...Ugh!

I'm a teacher. School choice and me are very well acquainted, believe me. I know her so well but I haven't seen her since moving to the West.

You don't say! I've news for you sister. personality? Try spirit. And masculine? Given the amount of simps out there, I think you would be more masculine than any ten of them, and that's a great thing.

See, now there is such a thing as too much hyperbole. Given how I know about project Dress-to-find-a-husband-that-will-croak-soon, and given your envious stats, I doubt anybody with a single functioning neuron would make that mistake.

Thank goodness. At least you said 'most'. I've hope.
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Yes, most not all. I was raised to be pretty self sufficient and I think I've done ok there.

I unfortunately see a lot of the folks I graduated with because this city seems to suck you back in like a black hole, and how I look now isn't really going to make waves. I just can't even fake interest in any of those people or their miserable lives. Anyone I care about I still have some sort of connection, save for the two who lost their lives in military service.
 
Tangentially related, but a stressed mom and her kid passed by me a couple times at costco the other day. We ended up in the same aisle, and she was eyeing up my foods. I've only recently become aware that this is a thing that people do to other people, so I observed and idly wondered what she was thinking, if she was even thinking about my items. Didn't take long, lol. She spoke up and said, "must be nice to be able to eat healthy and not have kid food". I was super indignant at that. I said back, "No, don't compare yourself to me." and promptly fucked off.

Victim of her own damn decisions, lol. I don't even know what was in her cart, I just wanted my sheep yoggies

I think people are ridiculous and their opinions are not very nuanced !
 
Atlanatpr said:
My family really judged me, telling me I just needed to power through it and find more motivation and grit.
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Its funny family members will tolerate drug addicts, thieves, alcoholics and "weird uncles". but god forbid a guy takes his health seriously. Trt and peptides are the modern creatine boogeyman for fogeys who know nothing of supplements. Like at some point are anabolics and peptides risky? Sure. But if alot of us kept going the way we were without intervention we would have been dead before 40. Maybe its because they see their inadequacy and fear they will be judged as much as we were for being the last functionally broken human beings in the family unit.
 
The only person who knows what I'm doing is the one who got me started on peptides. To me, it's nobody's business what I'm doing, because I'm only doing it for myself. Now, if a close friend that I trusted would ask for advice or what I'm doing, I would probably tell them if they were genuinely interested in it. For most, it would probably just be a starting point for unnecessary drama and I don't have time for that.
 
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