Peoples' reactions to weight loss

[Approach]

I lost 50 lbs in the past 6 months. I recently saw family members, then saw a friend elsewhere. In both instances, each person was shocked at how different I look. They went on and on about how I look like a different person.

My question is: I wish to lose 30 more lbs to hit my realistic target weight -- for a healthy BMI. If I lose 30 lbs more -- then people will be even more shocked. Any advice how to deal with this? 1) Should I try to lose the 30 lbs next year? Or, 2) I prefer to steadily lose it now - as I am on a steady roll. Then, I can stop - and hit maintenance dose. How do you deal with the extreme reactions from people?

 

[AndyPanda]

I lost 50 lbs in the past 6 months. I recently saw family members, then saw a friend elsewhere. In both instances, each person was shocked at how different I look. They went on and on about how I look like a different person.

My question is: I wish to lose 30 more lbs to hit my realistic target weight -- for a healthy BMI. If I lose 30 lbs more -- then people will be even more shocked. Any advice how to deal with this? 1) Should I try to lose the 30 lbs next year? Or, 2) I prefer to steadily lose it now - as I am on a steady roll. Then, I can stop - and hit maintenance dose. How do you deal with the extreme reactions from people?

To hell with people my friend! Do what makes you feel good about yourself. You are doing great, man. Keep up the good work.

 

[Galora]

Honestly, you should not give a f#$% a^% of what others think. I get it, it's tough. I get judgement from my family too. But, this is for your health and for you, so focus on that.

Get to your goal weight - with some medical guidance if you can - without worrying about what others may say, if it's fast or not. I wouldn't "change the speed" because others might judge. Your body will probably slow down as you're getting closer to the goal anyway. Just stick to the plan, make it slow, steady and healthy - meaning don't go into extremes like not eating anything or workouts that deplete you, etc.

Those folks that judge will eventually stop when they see the healthy new you 🙂

 

[meowTime]

I do it for me not for them. They are smart enough to not comment at this point, because I'm a serial yo-yo dieter for 10 years.

Never stop doing something good for you just because of what some people might think or say.

Also, if you pause, you may not be able to start again when you want to or start gaining again. This has also happened to me every single time I lost weight.

 

[raw_oyster_eater]

keep doing the same thing while you are on a roll and in the groove. I tried some different stuff and it totally destroyed my progress.

i need to get back to munching on my radishes all day and drinking my celery juice.

 

[jtech007]

Lose the 30 and don't confirm whatever their assumptions are. I have never understood why people want to talk about other people's physical appearance to them without the person initiating the conversation. I have told people I'm gaining weight, when actually they are correct that I'm still losing to make them question it and not bring it up anymore. If thay doesn't work I respectfully ask them to not bring it up as it's not something I care to discuss because vanity isn't my thing.

 

[dionysos]

When they get over their amazement and ask how I did it I tell the truth:
"I went to a Swiss clinic and had Monkey Gland injections".

That's usually sufficient to end the conversation.
/s

 

[Approach]

Thanks guys! I agree with everything you say -- just need more guts! I now have the guts.

 

[Bacchus]

As long as that different person is someone you like to see in the mirror in the morning, it doesn’t really matter what people have to say about it.

And I think it’s easy to misunderstand peoples intentions, you are doing something different and succeeding.

Some will find it weird/awkward because it’s different

Some will on some subconscious level dislike your success

And so on and so forth.

When you set a goal lock in and start succeeding, somehow people will find it reasonable to derail you 🤷‍♂️

If you don’t party and focus on sports, you’re boring - one night won’t hurt.

If you’re dieting, you’re getting too skinny or not eating. You meed to eat more unhealthy stuff

If you build too much muscle you’re getting too big

You also see the same when someone starts a business and is struggling through a rough startup - just give up and find a normal job.

It seems to be human nature, in a subconscious level - to derail eachother.

Ignore the noise and do your thing, and most likely - it isn’t really ill intended 🤷‍♂️

 

[MrsRoper_1977]

When they get over their amazement and ask how I did it I tell the truth:
"I went to a Swiss clinic and had Monkey Gland injections".

That's usually sufficient to end the conversation.
/s

I’m making note of this.😂

At first people noticed the loss, but now that it’s more drastic people are asking questions. I have chosen not to disclose my use of glp1s, except for family and very close friends. Now I’m finding myself wanting to avoid people that haven’t seen me this small. I really don’t want questions and have been trying to figure out how to answer. Honestly. I feel like a professional dieter so I know what works for me. I fill like I have combined many aspects of different “diets” to lose the weight, with the glp1s helping me to utilize these methods. It’s really been a 6 year journey.

So I usually just say that it’s been a long process over 6 years. I don’t eat sugar or drink alcohol. And I usually eat 2 meals and no snacking. Sure the glp1s help me do this but I don’t have to share that bit of information.

But I might use your phrase when I don’t really care to share anything.😂

 

[Approach]

>>>>>>So I usually just say that it’s been a long process over 6 years. I don’t eat sugar or drink alcohol. And I usually eat 2 meals and no snacking.

Great points. I did give up Soda 6 months ago completely. And, I don't snack. And, I exercise. All great answers. However, I tend to use humor a lot. Thus, if I don't go the serious route - I'll explain something silly. I do this with my hair loss and it works every time.

 

[Approach]

Btw, I a few ignorant people in the past used to tell me: "Wow. You gained weight." I used to say: "Aww. Thank you so much." It worked every time. It totally confused them and shut them up. lol

 

[dionysos]

I’m making note of this.😂
But I might use your phrase when I don’t really care to share anything.😂

Truthfully, I share my GLP1 details with people whose opinions matter to me, with you good people here, and with those I'm trying to make a difference for.

There are a surprising number of others who feel they have a right to know my medical history. I've been fat-shamed, slighted, shunned and treated with scant regard at various times in my life due to being fat. I will not now be subject to the opinions of those who feel I don't deserve "Ozempic" because I am not yet diabetic.

Nor will I acknowledge those who believe that using GLP1s is somehow "cheating" or "easy".
It has been an eighteen month effort to lose 74 pounds - at 1 pound per week.

GLPs do not make weight loss easy. They make it possible.

 

[mopo89]

Btw, I a few ignorant people in the past used to tell me: "Wow. You gained weight." I used to say: "Aww. Thank you so much." It worked every time. It totally confused them and shut them up. lol

I had someone say this to me last year. I had gained 60lbs after a combination of Covid, my thyroid levels being unstable and my dad unexpectedly dying.

I gave them the shocked pikachu face and said “so that’s why my pants don’t fit anymore!!” And walked away lol

 

[AJ3118]

I don't tell anyone about the GLP except my husband. Everyone is so judgy and thinks it's "cheating." My mother in law says crappy things about her brother in law's use of Ozempic. I just keep my mouth shut when she brings it up. She is a nurse but is very un-educated about GLPs (as is the average person honestly).

My brother is a doctor so I'm pretty careful in what I say to him as well. He asked how I lost so much weight and I told him about my prolactinoma and that my endocrinologist was fixing my dose of medicine. Of course then he's like "oh what meds are you on?" 🫢 I omitted the GLP from my answer and just said the one for the actual prolactinoma.

Most folks haven't said a word; I think they've mostly gotten the memo that you shouldn't comment on others' bodies. My mom tells me how "amazing" I look (and asked my weight) and a friend commented that I was "so tiny" but no one has said anything mean about it.

 

[Bacchus]

I truly don’t understand where the mentality that glp-1s is cheating comes from.

Sure, you can probably maybe in theory lose weight with willpower too - but at what expense?

All that willpower is probably better spent somewhere else.

Feels kind of like saying it’s cheating if you get a cast for a broken arm. You should let it dangle around and heal naturally without cheating? 🤷‍♂️

 

[meowTime]

I truly don’t understand where the mentality that glp-1s is cheating comes from.

Sure, you can probably maybe in theory lose weight with willpower too - but at what expense?

All that willpower is probably better spent somewhere else.

Feels kind of like saying it’s cheating if you get a cast for a broken arm. You should let it dangle around and heal naturally without cheating? 🤷‍♂️

It comes from seeing obesity as a personal moral failing. That's really the whole thing.

 

[dionysos]

It comes from seeing obesity as a personal moral failing. That's really the whole thing.

As ‘moral failings’ go it’s a pretty boring one I think. Now that I’m near Maintenance I’m gonna try and develop some that are more entertaining 😬

 

[YoYoFat]

When they get over their amazement and ask how I did it I tell the truth:
"I went to a Swiss clinic and had Monkey Gland injections".

That's usually sufficient to end the conversation.
/s

If you were to say Gila Monster venom, it wouldn’t be so sarcastic! 🤣

 

[Glp1judd]

First, gotta understand that insecure people commonly use fat ppl as a way to make themselves feel better.

Those ppl won’t appreciate you getting skinnier or healthier. They will find other way to judge you (and others) to soothe their broken egos.

Full stop.

Gotta agree with other commenter.

F&$k em!

Do what works for you, body mind spirit. Anyone who messes with that has got to go!

 

[chmuse]

It comes from seeing obesity as a personal moral failing. That's really the whole thing.

I hate this argument so much.

I gained a massive amount of weight when I finally started treating my health after my illness showed up. The meds make me crave carbs constantly, and I'll wake up in the morning to a mountain of empty wrappers. Every time I come off the meds I get a ton of people telling me I look great, what am I doing? When I tell them, that's often an opening for them to tell me meds are poison.

I lost my Dr and came off my meds once. I lost 60lbs in 9 months. I also almost ended up in the hospital and losing my career.

I've been on sema for two weeks now. I thought it was placebo at first, the lowest dose isn't supposed to do anything, but for the last two weeks, other than day 6&7 before my next dose, I don't wake up to wrappers. Choosing healthy foods is easy. I'm fine with it. I'm eating like I did off the meds, I actually love vegetables again. I'm staying under my tdee effortlessly, but still at a healthy number for my height.

Commenting on someone's weight like that is rude. You don't know their circumstances, and it's rarely a moral failure.

 

[John316]

You simply have to do what is the best for your total health?

 

[mlke6]

I hate this argument so much.

I gained a massive amount of weight when I finally started treating my health after my illness showed up. The meds make me crave carbs constantly, and I'll wake up in the morning to a mountain of empty wrappers. Every time I come off the meds I get a ton of people telling me I look great, what am I doing? When I tell them, that's often an opening for them to tell me meds are poison.

I lost my Dr and came off my meds once. I lost 60lbs in 9 months. I also almost ended up in the hospital and losing my career.

I've been on sema for two weeks now. I thought it was placebo at first, the lowest dose isn't supposed to do anything, but for the last two weeks, other than day 6&7 before my next dose, I don't wake up to wrappers. Choosing healthy foods is easy. I'm fine with it. I'm eating like I did off the meds, I actually love vegetables again. I'm staying under my tdee effortlessly, but still at a healthy number for my height.

Commenting on someone's weight like that is rude. You don't know their circumstances, and it's rarely a moral failure.

Some pin every 5 days to keep that day 6 and 7 hunger at bay

 

[chmuse]

Some pin every 5 days to keep that day 6 and 7 hunger at bay

Yeah I'm debating a shot this morning, a day early, but that would be raising my dose before the first month is up, and I'm trying to be conservative. I have a history of reacting to medications strongly. I'm probably going to just go for it.

 

[raw_oyster_eater]

I’m gonna try and develop some that are more entertaining 😬

hell yea!

 

[mostlydamp]

I always think that that if people have a reaction to weight loss that isn't feeling happy for me, they are using a negative reaction to try to control something. Usually it's to squash their sense of insecurity or comparing their own lack of progress to yours. Most people who make others suffer are doing it because they are suffering. Or maybe they are just an asshole.

Either way, their feelings are theirs and you don't have to carry their shitty brain around.

 

[raw_oyster_eater]

the women at the corner store oooh and awe over my weight loss. It's a rare treat so i'll take it.

 

[YoYoFat]

Yeah I'm debating a shot this morning, a day early, but that would be raising my dose before the first month is up, and I'm trying to be conservative. I have a history of reacting to medications strongly. I'm probably going to just go for it.

It’s only been 2 weeks. Don’t do it. Give it time to build up in your system with time and last longer. Check out the app Shotsy.

 

[Garbo]

I hate this argument so much.

I gained a massive amount of weight when I finally started treating my health after my illness showed up. The meds make me crave carbs constantly, and I'll wake up in the morning to a mountain of empty wrappers. Every time I come off the meds I get a ton of people telling me I look great, what am I doing? When I tell them, that's often an opening for them to tell me meds are poison.

I lost my Dr and came off my meds once. I lost 60lbs in 9 months. I also almost ended up in the hospital and losing my career.

I've been on sema for two weeks now. I thought it was placebo at first, the lowest dose isn't supposed to do anything, but for the last two weeks, other than day 6&7 before my next dose, I don't wake up to wrappers. Choosing healthy foods is easy. I'm fine with it. I'm eating like I did off the meds, I actually love vegetables again. I'm staying under my tdee effortlessly, but still at a healthy number for my height.

Commenting on someone's weight like that is rude. You don't know their circumstances, and it's rarely a moral failure.

Oh my gawd I am so freaking happy for you. And I am sorry you have been through so much as you tried to treat your serious health issues.

This freaking medication is beneficial to so many people in so many different ways … I am glad I lived long enough to see it. i'm glad you did, too. 💜

 

[chmuse]

It’s only been 2 weeks. Don’t do it. Give it time to build up in your system with time and last longer. Check out the app Shotsy.

Yeah, I decided to wait. It's only 24 hours and you can only titrate up to a certain level.