Soooo.... Ive lost a lot of weight, and have gotten a lil judgmental.

[Gr33dyOctopus]

Same as when I quit smoking and then quit vaping. Which is crazy ridiculous since at 330 I was constantly the fattest fuck in the room everywhere I went.

But now.... at 213 when I see morbidly obese overweight people I pity them, want to help them, mention to my girl I should offer them some tirz. I know, not cool, I guess its similar to I cant stand smokers anymore, or folks that vape.

Like I've overcome and beyond all that ( for now 😅 ) and somehow experienced more personal growth or whatever than they did. Know thats bullshit, and stupid fucking thoughts on my part but here I am, silently judging fat people when 9 or 10 months ago I was one of the very fattest around.

Anyone else maybe secretly feel similar?!?! I dont hate big people, pity them and now i want to help them. Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣
* except you randomperson you rock!!!

😃

 

[msyntakz]

I get it. You are on the other side of something negative and you are seeing/experiencing the benefits. Makes you want to shake people and somehow get them to experience where you are at. You know they don't HAVE to live that way. I think it's human nature to want to help from a perspective you understand.


EDIT: Also, great job on the weight loss! That's great progress!

 

[Smiter]

I should offer them some tirz

I'm your huckleberry. Send it oover.

Fuck the smokers and vapers tho

F-U too, Avaricious Cephalopod

 

[FartfulCodger]

I know the feeling. Today I saw a 300-pound dad with his wife and kids. And I was like "Doesn't he know he could be a healthy weight within a year? Wouldn't he want do it for the kids?"

And you sort of wish that you carried around a reconned vial of Tirz, along with a little instruction sheet, and you could call him aside and tell him that you looked like he did just a short time ago. You could offer him the solution (in both senses of the word).

 

[Smiter]

I know the feeling. Today I saw a 300-pound dad with his wife and kids. And I was like "Doesn't he know he could be a healthy weight within a year? Wouldn't he want do it for the kids?"

And you sort of wish that you carried around a reconned vial of Tirz, along with a little instruction sheet, and you could call him aside and tell him that you looked like he did just a short time ago. You could offer him the solution (in both senses of the word).

What woodwork are you guys coming out of? Okay, recon your vial and get ready, I'll walk by you.

 

[anhydrous]

I sometimes think about getting cards made at Quikprint so that I could hand them out to the morbidly obese people that I encounter.

 

[CNCCurrency]

Same as when I quit smoking and then quit vaping. Which is crazy ridiculous since at 330 I was constantly the fattest fuck in the room everywhere I went.

But now.... at 213 when I see morbidly obese overweight people I pity them, want to help them, mention to my girl I should offer them some tirz. I know, not cool, I guess its similar to I cant stand smokers anymore, or folks that vape.

Like I've overcome and beyond all that ( for now 😅 ) and somehow experienced more personal growth or whatever than they did. Know thats bullshit, and stupid fucking thoughts on my part but here I am, silently judging fat people when 9 or 10 months ago I was one of the very fattest around.

Anyone else maybe secretly feel similar?!?! I dont hate big people, pity them and now i want to help them. Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣
* except you randomperson you rock!!!

😃

 

[randompersonrandom]

I stare. I never fully recovered all my social habits after COVID-era was over because so much of my life is still solitary (got a COVID-divorce, stayed working remote, found out I actually preferred a lot of solitude), so I got a problem with staring anyway that I'm working on. But I stare at fat people, thinking about "I wonder if she's uncomfortable? I wonder if it hurts him to carry so much? I wonder if he knows about it and is already on it, and if he's not, what's stopping him?" til I realize I'm doing it and stop it RIGHT THIS SECOND, and hope to God nobody who would be hurt by it saw me do it.

A very, very big woman in a beautiful dress, with beautiful hair, walked by me at a concert today. Her walk was very slow and also very majestic. I was sitting there thinking "I wonder what her walk would look like if she didn't have to carry so much, would it still be majestic at a higher speed? Her dress is so lovely, I wonder if she'd still wear that style if she had other options" and then realized I'd turned my goddamn head and stopped that, and made a mental note that if I'm going to go out more often like this, I NEED to get my manners back up.

 

[randompersonrandom]

I sometimes think about getting cards made at Quikprint so that I could hand them out to the morbidly obese people that I encounter.

I know you're either mostly kidding, or all the way kidding, but Jesus god promise me you'd never actually do that, and please nobody who is lurking and has terrible judgement and just thought "I'm gonna do that right now cause I saw it on the internet" do that. Imagine if someone who desperately wanted to be on a glp-1 but was contraindicated and heartbroken had that experience while they were out existing. Or someone who was a non responder, or someone who WAS on them and had already lost a hundred pounds but had a long way to go.

 

[Cumulus]

it's because you've internalized the shame from being large (that other people put on you). The truth of the matter is that you deserved dignity and kindness no matter the weight. You feel negatively towards those that remind you of that pain.

When I see bigger people, I just worry that they think I judge them. I don't.

 

[Smiter]

it's because you've internalized the shame from being large (that other people put on you). The truth of the matter is that you deserved dignity and kindness no matter the weight. You feel negatively towards those that remind you of that pain.

When I see bigger people, I just worry that they think I judge them. I don't.

I agree partially. But this internalization concept is so alien to me.

 

[Danger1212]

Same as when I quit smoking and then quit vaping. Which is crazy ridiculous since at 330 I was constantly the fattest fuck in the room everywhere I went.

But now.... at 213 when I see morbidly obese overweight people I pity them, want to help them, mention to my girl I should offer them some tirz. I know, not cool, I guess its similar to I cant stand smokers anymore, or folks that vape.

Like I've overcome and beyond all that ( for now 😅 ) and somehow experienced more personal growth or whatever than they did. Know thats bullshit, and stupid fucking thoughts on my part but here I am, silently judging fat people when 9 or 10 months ago I was one of the very fattest around.

Anyone else maybe secretly feel similar?!?! I dont hate big people, pity them and now i want to help them. Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣
* except you randomperson you rock

Hey Gr33dy👋
Honestly I think a lot of people who make a huge life change go through this mentally for a while. Former smokers hate smoke, former drinkers get annoyed by drunk people, former overweight people suddenly notice obesity everywhere. Part of it is probably your brain trying to reinforce “I escaped that.”

The important thing is you still remember what it felt like to be there. Most people struggling with weight already know they’re struggling. Compassion matters more than judgment. And to your credit, it sounds less like hate and more like you genuinely wish you could help people feel better too.

Also… going from 330 to 213 in under a year is a massive transformation. That changes how you see yourself, the world, and other people whether we admit it or not 😅

P.S. Are you singing karaoke? What song would it be if you were?😁

 

[Texan509]

No, I can't judge someone for being obese since I was. If they complain and refuse to try to make a change I might think of them as lazy.

 

[sheilarae74]

Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣

I feel attacked. 🤣🤣

 

[CNCCurrency]

Hey Gr33dy👋
Honestly I think a lot of people who make a huge life change go through this mentally for a while. Former smokers hate smoke, former drinkers get annoyed by drunk people, former overweight people suddenly notice obesity everywhere. Part of it is probably your brain trying to reinforce “I escaped that.”

The important thing is you still remember what it felt like to be there. Most people struggling with weight already know they’re struggling. Compassion matters more than judgment. And to your credit, it sounds less like hate and more like you genuinely wish you could help people feel better too.

Hey Gr33dy👋
Honestly I think a lot of people who make a huge life change go through this mentally for a while. Former smokers hate smoke, former drinkers get annoyed by drunk people, former overweight people suddenly notice obesity everywhere. Part of it is probably your brain trying to reinforce “I escaped that.”

The important thing is you still remember what it felt like to be there. Most people struggling with weight already know they’re struggling. Compassion matters more than judgment. And to your credit, it sounds less like hate and more like you genuinely wish you could help people feel better too.

Also… going from 330 to 213 in under a year is a massive transformation. That changes how you see yourself, the world, and other people whether we admit it or not 😅

P.S. Are you singing karaoke? What song would it be if you were?😁

Also… going from 330 to 213 in under a year is a massive transformation. That changes how you see yourself, the world, and other people whether we admit it or not 😅
P.S. Are you singing karaoke? What song would it be if you were?😁

Me singing

 

[cheaperseeker]

I feel like a terrible person for it, but I have similar thoughts.

Usually the first one is, "They must not be able to afford Lilly prices," probably because that's the only reason I took as long as I did to get on it. My second thought is, "I should tell them about gray!" My third thought is, "Nobody wants some rando in Kohl's walking up to them and saying, 'You must not be on Glp-1s because you can't afford them. But wait! What if you could afford them?? I can tell you how to purchase GLPs right from the comfort of your home, for less than $5 a week. That's right, less than the price of cup of coffee! And it's only semi-illegal!" Finally, I tell myself, " WTF, you judgy bitch! There are plenty of other reasons someone might not be taking it." And I walk to my car in shame.

Sadly, it doesn't even occur to me that maybe they've already started and just aren't at goal yet, like @randompersonrandom mentioned. 😔 It definitely should though, because that's my mother-in-law's current situation.

 

[SeaGypsy]

I haven't gotten my self esteem back (not that I've ever had any), I still see myself as the fat person in the room. Don't know if I'll ever break free from that.

PS- Fuck you too...as I reach for my vape

 

[leeann82]

Going from nearly 350 to 131 as of this am, I have incredible compassion for them all. I would never judge them or give unsolicited advice, but if I was approached by someone looking for help, id definately share my journey and what it took to get here.

 

[SeaGypsy]

Going from nearly 350 to 131 as of this am, I have incredible compassion for them all. I would never judge them or give unsolicited advice, but if I was approached by someone looking for help, id definately share my journey and what it took to get here.

Wow, that's quite a journey, big congrats

 

[Grogu]

Same as when I quit smoking and then quit vaping. Which is crazy ridiculous since at 330 I was constantly the fattest fuck in the room everywhere I went.

But now.... at 213 when I see morbidly obese overweight people I pity them, want to help them, mention to my girl I should offer them some tirz. I know, not cool, I guess its similar to I cant stand smokers anymore, or folks that vape.

Like I've overcome and beyond all that ( for now 😅 ) and somehow experienced more personal growth or whatever than they did. Know thats bullshit, and stupid fucking thoughts on my part but here I am, silently judging fat people when 9 or 10 months ago I was one of the very fattest around.

Anyone else maybe secretly feel similar?!?! I dont hate big people, pity them and now i want to help them. Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣
* except you randomperson you rock!!!

😃

I don’t see anything judgmental here @Gr33dyOctopus, how I read this is that you have compassion and sorrow for their situation. Trust me, there is a lot of very judgmental folks out there and the thoughts about the overweight and obese can be pretty severe.

There is this guy at the local Whole Foods store near me who must be 500 pounds. I wish I could say something to him, but I know that that is just not appropriate, but my feelings are like yours. I can’t believe he can work an entire shift in that condition, I wonder what I could do to help.

Feeling compassion and wanting to help isn’t judgmental, it’s being a human. Pretty good for an octopus 👍🏻.

 

[5byfive]

I'm the same as you. When you see something in other people that you have hated about yourself, it is natural to have a negative reaction. I hated being overweight (and myself for it) so being overweight is always going to be a negative thing in my mind. I don't think that's wrong; you are allowed to feel the way you feel and as long as you are not tresting people badly you don't need to feel bad for feeling that way.

 

[Smiter]

What's going on here? Am I the odd one out in this bunch too? What on earth is wrong with all of you? So, now I should start hating fat people and internalize nonsensical stuff? Blimey

 

[5byfive]

What's going on here? Am I the odd one out in this bunch too? What on earth is wrong with all of you? So, now I should start hating fat people and internalize nonsensical stuff? Blimey

Dude, I love you but I don't have time to list the ways in which you are the odd one here.

 

[lessthanhalf]

I wish it were easier to get people to at least consider GLP drugs, my son and his friend are both pretty overweight, and could really benefit from GLP's and skip the part where you do not do anything about it until after horrible health consequences ensue years later. But briefly mentioning it once is about as much as is socially acceptable if they are not interested

 

[BNLFL]

Same as when I quit smoking and then quit vaping. Which is crazy ridiculous since at 330 I was constantly the fattest fuck in the room everywhere I went.

But now.... at 213 when I see morbidly obese overweight people I pity them, want to help them, mention to my girl I should offer them some tirz. I know, not cool, I guess its similar to I cant stand smokers anymore, or folks that vape.

Like I've overcome and beyond all that ( for now 😅 ) and somehow experienced more personal growth or whatever than they did. Know thats bullshit, and stupid fucking thoughts on my part but here I am, silently judging fat people when 9 or 10 months ago I was one of the very fattest around.

Anyone else maybe secretly feel similar?!?! I dont hate big people, pity them and now i want to help them. Fuck the smokers and vapers tho 😊😅🤣
* except you randomperson you rock!!!

😃

That there sure is a fancy blue shirt. FYI, I quit 3.5 years ago, best thing ever.

 

[chipsandsalsayall]

Sometimes I think about getting a t-shirt printed with "310/207" on it. Kind of like the Mad Hatter's...what was it....10/9 card that was stuck in his hatband. Maybe someone in need might ask what 310/207 meant.

Meanwhile I hope to be a living demonstration of the usefulness of glp1's...a walking vial of Tirz, so to speak...and hope to pass on what I have learned and what I did. A quiet crusader. A benign reformer. But ready to share with another when and if called upon to do so.

As mentioned though many fellow travelers are unable/unwilling to access what many of us have benefited from, so I try to bear that in mind as well. I'm fortunate and I hope that never gets lost on me.......

 

[ThinkVision]

Unfortunately, if they refuse to hear it from the general practitioner, and their own family members waving the red flag of negative health effects and shortened life span in their face. You won't be the one to get thru to them, you will just come across as "another d-bag" and no matter how kindly you can put it... They won't hear it that way.

But yes, you (and a metric fuck ton of others) were in the same shoes presumably not too long ago, you probably also ignored the same red flags. So ease your own mind, and remind yourself of that from time to time.
Nobody is superior to anyone else, everyone is on their own journey, and people are only able to be helped once they realized on their own and only on their own... They need to be.

 

[JimGainz]

This is a very common, and I think productive/protective, mindset when making and sustaining a transformation. Trouble is, people around us don't want to keep hearing about it LOL!! Fortunately, that's where this community comes in handy and becomes not only an inlet for infor and inspiration but also an outlet for your feelings.

 

[oldjarhead]

I have a close buddy that quit drinking 30 years ago. He believes the AA program saved his life and helped him quit his addiction. He doesn't bring it up in conversation much, but if you ask anything about it, the flood gates open and he will burn your ears off. I love that he is so passionate about his success and I get it. He wants to help as many as possible and I think you do to. Congrats on your success! Stay motivated.

 

[Tattoo85]

I'll be honest, I'm into bodybuilding and currently lean enough where I have veins running down my abs. I couldn't care less if anyone else is thin or 400lbs, it's their life. I use steroids, I used to drink a lot on the weekends, and I used to fight competitively so I'm sure I have some CTE, I've definitely had at least a dozen concussions, along with tons of other injuries. I have no room to judge anyone for unhealthy habits or lifestyles.

The only thing I don't like is parents who raise their kids on junk food and no physical activity, and let them become obese. They're setting up their own children for a lifetime of medical issues and I think that's wrong. Otherwise, I'm all about letting people live their lives how they want.